Have you ever been in a situation or counseled a situation like Dr. Dobson describes in the first 3 chapters of Love Must Be Tough? Have you been the victim begging for mercy? Or have you counseled someone who was the victim begging for mercy? What were the dynamics you witnessed? If you saw this as a child of divorce, describe what that was like for you and how you viewed both of your parents? If you have not experienced any of these circumstances, what do you think of Dr. Dobson’s case for how ineffective these ways are for getting a self-centered and “cool lover” to come back to the “warmth of the hearth?”